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If someone texts you with "let me know if you're interested" are you lot obligated to respond no thing what?

• Thread starter Adept Kid mAAd Poster
• Commencement date Jan 17, 2019

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• #1

Got into a contend with my friend tonight because I asked him how come oftentimes he doesn't respond when I enquire him to hang out. His retort was that he volition only answer if he was wanting hang out, otherwise he won't.

Let's say I text someone that I want to catch drinks tonight, followed by "let me know if yous're interested." Or "I'thou meeting a couple people tonight for dinner, let me know if you're interested"

Is that other person obligated to respond fifty-fifty if they are not interested? In both of those examples, my friend would not respond at all if he couldn't get. Meanwhile, every fourth dimension he asks me to hang out, I give him a response yes or no.

To me, "let me know if y'all're interested" is the same matter as "are you interested?" From my POV if I even carp to text you with my plans, clearly I am not indifferent to you joining. I want y'all to join, otherwise I wouldn't text y'all at all.

• #ii

No.

However, I answer to every message I get. Not because I feel I have to, simply because I desire to.

• #3

I would say not responding I'd not showing interest. But actually how hard is it to type ii letters, no, if yous are already reading the message?

• #four

To me, "are you interested" asks for a response of either aye or no. "Let me know if you are interested" to me means "if yes, respond. If no, no need to reply."

• #v

Say what you mean. If y'all ask a question then it prompts a response. "Permit me know if yous're interested" merely requires a response if hes interested.

• #6

Why would I ignore someone I consider a friend? If information technology's some rando then sure information technology's fair game to ignore it.

• #seven

Well, read information technology plainly.

"Allow me know if yous're interested."

Which means that they don't need to permit yous know if they're non. =P

Modify it to "Let me know if yous're interested or non." and encounter if that changes annihilation.

• #8

the IF is crucial here. IF yous are interested. not interested = no text. or at to the lowest degree I don't think that's rude.

I'll often use this phrase to denote "no pressure"

• #9

If it's a group/mass-mail so replying is optional.
But if information technology's a straight and personal mail then not replying is rather bad manners.

• #ten

Well if you said "let y'all know" if "I am interested", of course I am not going to let you lot know if I am not interested.

Too I don't go people how they can't guess an reply between words. I organized BBQ events of 10-xx coworkers. I can't tell viii out of 10 times if somebody is not coming fifty-fifty if they don't out right say then. Information technology'southward pretty piece of cake to tell base on personality actually.

• #12

I always say "Let me know either manner"...clarity is helpful to both parties

• #13

"Allow me know" = no response is a no.

• #14

If I wasn't indifferent to whether someone joined me for a dark out, I wouldn't be texting them the day/night of to brand the plans. If I texted someone the nighttime I wanted to hang with them, I wouldn't wait a text back.

• #xv

Why not just say "can't tonight but thanks for thinking of me" if yous're looking at the text anyhow?

• #sixteen

It actually depends on who is asking. Close friend? We likely take a text thread going anyway so I'll comment on it in some way. Random work person asking me about happy hour via e-mail? I'1000 just not responding.

• #17

I don't know, but someone allow me know the answer.

• #18

I become into something similar with my married woman. She always words it "do you want to.." take out the garbage or something like that. To which the response is always, "no". I exercise not desire to.

If information technology's "will you lot take out the garbage", the response is "sure, OK". Wording matters.

• #xix

"Let me know" = no response is a no.

This. It'due south not too hard.

• #20

Myself, I would respond to a message worded like that. Nevertheless, I do not believe there is an obligation to respond.

Change it to "Are yous interested," like yous mentioned. If he continues to not respond, then he's being a jerk.

• #21

No. You're never obligated to answer to a text. And if y'all text "allow me know IF you lot're interested" so you're literally asking them to answer only if they're interested.

• #22

If I wasn't indifferent to whether someone joined me for a nighttime out, I wouldn't be texting them the day/night of to make the plans. If I texted someone the dark I wanted to hang with them, I wouldn't expect a text back.

That makes no sense. What if yous didn't realize you'd be costless, or if yous just all suddenly wanted to socialize that night. Not all plans take to be fabricated in advance.

• #23

That makes no sense. What if you didn't realize yous'd exist free, or if you only of a sudden wanted to socialize that night. Not all plans have to be made in advance.

Certain, simply I wouldn't look a response from someone if I'm texting them asking whether or not they're able to hang out only a couple hours in advance.

The just reason I would be miffed if someone didn't answer is if we had fabricated plans in advance.

• #24

lol I love how everyone is taking this super literally. The question in the op should receive a response either way. "Nah, I'g busy," or, "yes, sounds like a plan," isn't that hard is it? Your friend only needs an excuse for beingness a dick head of a friend. haha. No more. No less.

• #26

Just let them know either style, it takes literally a few seconds to answer and information technology allows the other person to go ahead and make their plans accordingly.

Information technology isn't hard to exist considerate.

Skillful Kid mAAd Poster I'grand with you. Your friend is being an inconsiderate dickhead and tbh I've stopped inviting people who keep pulling the same shit with me. If they can't exist bothered to put in the v seconds to answer to your text then it says a lot almost what they remember of you. They wouldn't pull that shit if it was a guy/gal they were interested in, they shouldn't do it to a supposed friend.

Last edited: Jan 17, 2019

• #27

Sure, simply I wouldn't expect a response from someone if I'm texting them asking whether or non they're able to hang out only a couple hours in accelerate.

The only reason I would be miffed if someone didn't reply is if we had made plans in advance.

If I invited a friend the night of to do something, I wouldn't expect them to come up through. That's a given.

However I would expect a response, given that people are on their phones oftentimes. If you have your telephone up, just spend the 20 seconds to write something back.

• #28

It's adept courtesy to respond to people, man.

• #29

No. "Let me know" = Respond if you want otherwise information technology'southward cool.

• #30

Beingness coy nearly the fact you lot want a response so getting mad when you don't become one later non requesting is game playing bullshit.

Merely say "let me know either way" and quit causing the ambiguity in the commencement place.

• #31

The "permit me know if" part implies he should only contact you if he is interested.

• #32

Only if you're interested.

• #33

Being coy about the fact you want a response and then getting mad when yous don't get 1 subsequently not requesting is game playing bullshit.

Just say "let me know either fashion" and quit causing the ambiguity in the first place.

They're writing an informal text to a friend, not drafting a legal document intended to be ironclad.

Takes longer to argue the betoken over the verbal wording than information technology does to reply "non tonight" when you already have your phone in your manus.

• #34

Depends on context and human relationship. If a cold solicitation? Not at all. A customer or someone in a working relationship? Yeah a simple "will practise" is fine.

• #35

It'southward non necessary, but it's polite and considerate, peculiarly if you lot make information technology clear that your plans are dependent on their answer.

Being passive aggressive is annoying.

• #36

I don't hold it against my friends if they don't respond to an invitation or full general question via text. The expectation that simply because nosotros all have phones means we're obligated to answer or respond is lame and inconsiderate of people'due south lives regardless of how inconsequential the act of typing a response is.

• #37

Beingness coy about the fact you want a response and then getting mad when y'all don't get i after non requesting is game playing bullshit.

Just say "let me know either mode" and quit causing the ambiguity in the outset place.

Excuse me for thinking that common courtesy, especially among friends, is a thing. I gauge not nowadays.

• #38

You don't have to answer but I would feel rude non replying to a close friend.

But a close friend would probably never say "let me know if y'all're interested".

• #39

Unless its someone I'thousand non friends with, and don't want to exist speaking with them, why would I just straight up ignore them? its fucking incredibly rude. Especially considering if someone is asking if y'all want to practice something they may be waiting around for your answer before going out. It takes 2 seconds to reply.

Excuse me for thinking that mutual courtesy, especially amid friends, is a thing. I estimate not nowadays.

It is. Don't let others tell y'all otherwise.

The "let me know if" role implies he should only contact you if he is interested.

Let me know implies to let them know, meaning aye or no.

• #twoscore

Alibi me for thinking that common courtesy, especially amongst friends, is a thing. I gauge not nowadays.

Your phrasing doesn't currently phone call for an answer and therefore information technology isn't discourteous to not provide one.

• #42

I'thou with yous OP. I def await either a yes or no when I text "u upwardly?" at 2 in the morning.

• #43

Your phrasing doesn't currently telephone call for an answer and therefore it isn't discourteous to non provide one.

Yeah my mate says "hello Zvon" every time we run across only that phrasing doesn't phone call for a response so I've been ignoring him every time I come across him for xv years. If he wants me to say hello and then he should be more than articulate with the wording of his greetings to be honest.

When my ex told me "I dear you" information technology was manifestly simply a statement of fact and not a direct question demanding an answer so I made sure to go on on playing computer games and browsing the Cyberspace on my phone. No idea why she dumped me, era pls assistance.

• #44

I don't take to answer if I don't desire to. My friends respect me for this and take told me and so on multiple occasions.

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• #46

Yeah my mate says "hello Zvon" every time we meet simply that phrasing doesn't call for a response so I've been ignoring him every fourth dimension I meet him for 15 years. If he wants me to say hi then he should be more clear with the wording of his greetings to be honest.

When my ex told me "I love you" it was patently only a statement of fact and non a direct question demanding an answer so I fabricated sure to proceed on playing computer games and browsing the Net on my phone. No idea why she dumped me, era pls assist.

Neither of which are comparable to the phrase in the championship.

• #47

Neither of which are comparable to the phrase in the title.

You're right, both of those accept less need of a response than "let me know if you're interested"

• #48

I'd feel like an asshole for not answering at all. Answering "no" will just solidify your answer; not answering will leave the person in uncertainty. So, I better not leaving any doubts and answer.

Aforementioned goes for yep.

• #49

I mean you lot don't take to, but information technology'south kinda rude to ignore the text. Merely reply and say you aren't interested.

• #fifty

But based on the info we have, I don't think your friend is beingness rude. By your phrasing, you're asking him only to reply if he's interested. It's not what I would practice, just I wouldn't hold it confronting a friend if they didn't reply in the same manner.

Merely really I guess it also depends on the dynamic y'all two share. Is your friend a popular guy who gets tons and tons of messages a day? Does he accept anxiety and would declining your invitation in writing cause him stress considering he'southward worried about disappointing you so he but chooses not to practise information technology which hopefully disappoints you less? That'south incommunicable for us to say.

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